What If Your Sex Life Could Actually Grow? (An Honest Introduction to the Great Sex Grows Series)
PLAY THE EPISODE
By Francie Winslow
There's a quiet assumption that most of us carry into marriage — that sex is either good or it isn't. That some couples just have "it" and others don't. That after a few years, a few kids, a few hard seasons, you sort of settle into whatever you've got and call it good enough.
What if that assumption is completely wrong?
That's the question at the heart of the Great Sex Grows series — and it's why I'm so glad to be bringing it back.
Why I Wanted to Revisit This Series
I originally recorded Great Sex Grows back in 2022. At the time, I felt a deep conviction that Christian women needed a different conversation about sex in marriage — one that wasn't rooted in shame, obligation, or oversimplified advice. One that was practical, honest, and rooted in what I genuinely believe: that God designed sex to be one of the most beautiful, connecting, healing gifts in a marriage — and that it doesn't grow by accident.
Four years later, I still believe every word.
But I'll be honest with you — a lot has happened since then. Our family has walked through some of the most challenging years of my life. Several of our kids have dealt with significant autoimmune health issues, including PANS, PANDAS, and Lyme disease. I have spent months away from home seeking treatment. I have lived in sustained, high-level stress that — if I'm being truthful — had the potential to take out our marriage, our connection, and any sense of intimacy between Wyatt and me.
And here's what I can tell you from the other side of those years: this message held. The practice of leaning into connection — even when it was inconvenient, even when we were exhausted, even when sex felt like the last thing on either of our minds — became an anchor. It kept us tethered to each other when everything else was pulling us apart.
That's not a small thing. That's everything.
Great Sex Grows — But Not by Accident
Think of it this way. If someone dropped you off at a gym and said, "There you go — get fit," and walked away, you'd probably wander around, do a few random things, and eventually give up. You'd do far better with a plan, a coach, some intention behind your effort.
Marriage and sexuality are no different.
Most of us entered marriage with very little training in this area. Maybe a pre-marital class that covered communication styles and love languages. Maybe a well-meaning conversation that was mostly about what not to do before the wedding. And then — marriage. And the assumption that everything else would just... work itself out.
For a lot of women, it didn't. Not because something is wrong with them, but because intentional growth requires exactly that: intention.
What You Can Expect in This Series
Over the next five episodes, we're going to cover a lot of practical ground. Fair warning — there is a lot of content here. When I recorded this series I had a lot of fervor and I packed it full. My suggestion: take notes, or just listen and let one or two ideas land. Don't try to do all of it at once.
Here's where we're headed:
We start with mindset — because how you think about sex shapes everything else. Then we move into your body — what it means to actually tune in and show up present. From there we get into fun — yes, fun, and there are 13 ideas waiting for you. Then we talk about communication — one of the most needed and least practiced skills in married intimacy. And we close with something I believe deeply: your identity as a woman and the unique superpowers you bring to your marriage.
A Note for Those Growing Alone
One more thing before we dive in — and this one is for the woman whose husband isn't on this journey with her right now.
You can still grow. Individual growth counts. When you expand, when you heal, when you develop new understanding and capacity — your marriage benefits. You become more capable of showing up, more interesting, more free. Don't let the fact that your spouse isn't ready stop you from doing the work that God is inviting you into right now.
Growth is never wasted. Not in any area of life — and not here.
Ready to Grow?
I hope this series finds you exactly where you are — whether you're a newlywed trying to build something beautiful from the start, or a woman who's been married for decades and suspects there might be more. There is more. And I'd be honored to walk alongside you toward it.
Want to keep exploring what it means to live fully in your female body — with confidence, joy, and freedom? Check out these resources? Check these out:
Have a question you want Francie to tackle on the podcast? Send her an email — she's always taking notes.