Ep. 227 | Intentional Intimacy: Sharing Sparks & building sexual intimacy
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By Francie Winslow
If you’ve ever felt like life is set up to smother your sex life—you’re not alone.
Between exhaustion, stress, and the endless to-do list, even the thought of connecting intimately can feel like a stretch. I get it. There have been seasons when Wyatt and I were so worn out, so fried, that intention had to be at the forefront…or connection would not come.
We knew we didn’t want to settle for distant and disconnected. That’s when we started talking about sparks.
From Survival Mode to Spark Moments
In those dry seasons, it felt like we didn’t have time or energy for a full-blown romantic fire. But a spark? That felt doable. A tiny flicker of energy. A quick kiss. A shared wink. A moment of body awareness that says, “I still want you.”
That’s what this week’s episode in the Intentional Intimacy summer series is all about—learning to feel the spark and share the spark.
We began using the word “spark” as a playful code. Maybe after a shower, I’d feel soft and clean and feminine. Or after a workout, a little blood flow would leave me feeling more alive. Instead of keeping that goodness to myself, I’d text Wyatt, “Had a spark 💥.”
Later, that might mean a pantry kiss. A thirty-second neck nuzzle in the hallway. A whisper: “I want to share something with you.” These moments aren’t about performance or pressure—they’re about presence and pleasure.
Why It Matters
Sharing sparks has helped us reframe intimacy from a duty to a delight. It’s taken the pressure off the “perfect moment” and given us permission to build connection in the small things.
And friend, it’s not just about desire—it’s about stewarding the energy of your body and inviting your spouse into that. It’s about showing up with what you do have, even if it’s just a flicker, and watching how that spark can grow.
So if you’re in a season of overwhelm or disconnection, this is a simple place to start. It doesn’t require a babysitter or a weekend away. Just a little intention and a whole lot of grace.
A Blessing for You
May you feel the beauty of your own body.
May you receive the spark of aliveness God has given you.
And may you have the courage to share that spark as a gift—tiny, tender, and full of potential.